Get Your Sex Life Out of a Rut 7 Fun Ways to Do It
Published 07/31/2015
Updated: 07/31/2015
If you’re in a long-term relationship, you might feel like your sex drive has declined over time. You’re comfortable and happy with your beloved partner, but that doesn’t mean that your sex life has to get boring or fizzle out completely. Here are some things you can do to get your sex life out of a rut.
Try roleplaying
Surprise your partner with an interesting outfit. Meet at a bar and pretend that you don’t know each other. Buy a wig or try out a new accent. Use your imagination and don’t be afraid to think outside the box. Roleplaying can be exciting because you feel like you’re having sex with a completely different person.
Change your location
Don’t limit yourself to the bedroom. You can have sex in lots of different places. Try doing it in the shower, on the kitchen floor, or in your car. A new location can add excitement to your sex life and make things interesting. Plus, it forces you to be a little more creative. You can’t really do the missionary position in your car.
Switch up your routine
It’s easy for couples to get into a regular routine when it comes to sex. Maybe you normally start kissing, which leads to oral sex, then intercourse. It’s easy and comfortable, but it’s not super exciting. The same old thing can get boring after a while. To spice things up, try new things or start with a different activity or position.
Initiate an unexpected quickie
It’s important for couples to be spontaneous. Why not wake your partner up for some midnight sex? You could also get up a little earlier and squeeze in a morning quickie. Or, you could rendezvous with your partner during your lunch hour. Small changes can help break up your routine and put the spark back in your relationship.
Build the anticipation
Teasing and anticipation is part of what makes dating so exciting. Why not rekindle that feeling with your partner? Spend one week just kissing and flirting with your partner. No sex allowed. Let the anticipation build. By the end of the week, you’ll be ready to tear each other’s clothes off.
Massage your partner
After a while, it’s easy to take your partner for granted. But you don’t always have to rush straight to intercourse. A little extra foreplay can be fun and enjoyable. A sensual massage will help you remember that your partner’s body is amazing. With a little time to focus, you’ll start noticing all the little things that originally attracted you.
Get a little kinky
Why not add a little extra spice to your relationship? Talk with your partner about your fantasies. If you’re both comfortable with it, you can take some inspiration from 50 Shades of Grey. Tie your partner up or try some light spanking. If you’re feeling a little kinky, don’t be afraid to try whatever turns you on.
Steven Schlosser
Dr. Schlosser graduated from Lafayette College Phi Beta Kappa and attended Georgetown Medical School. He had 4 years of medical residency training at Tufts University in Boston in both Gynecology and Internal Medicine. He has had a spotless medical career for the past 40+ years and is Board Certified.Read more
