What is Online Dating at 50 Really Like? Get the Inside Story

Keith G. Tolman
Written by: Keith G. Tolman
Published 05/07/2015
Updated: 05/07/2015

You have a great job and wonderful friends, but if you’re single and over 50, you might feel like something is missing. Most people want to share their lives with someone special. But where do you find love when you’re not interested in going to singles bars? That’s why many older adults turn to online dating.

With online dating, you can virtually meet hundreds of people almost overnight. It can be more fun than watching TV, but less time-consuming than attending social gatherings. If you’re not interested in someone who approaches you online, it’s easy to delete the message with one click. You don’t have to worry about hurt feelings. If you want to learn more about a person, you can start a conversation.

Online dating can be a real confidence booster for older adults. You can meet new people and learn more about what you like and don’t like. Are you looking for someone with an outgoing personality? Or would you prefer someone who is a quiet romantic? You will meet all different types online.

The online world transcends time, geography, and luck. For some, it’s an easier way to start a successful relationship. Here are some tips that will help you get the most out of online dating.

Have no fear
If you haven’t been in the dating market for a long time, it can be scary to jump right back in. But it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Online dating has officially become mainstream and everyone is trying it. More than 37 million Americans use online dating sites each month. Almost half of those people are age 35 to 50. Plus, more and more adults over 55 are going online to find dates.

Be open to love
If you want to find love, you have to be ready to open your heart. Review the past and take steps to let it go. Now is a great time to start over with a positive outlook. People are attracted to enthusiasm and playfulness, not bitterness and regret. Show people that you know how to have fun. Recreational activities can add pep to your life. Move forward into the future and be ready to share your happiness.

Sell yourself
Don’t worry about being modest. When it comes to online dating, it’s important to advertise your best attributes. Spend 15 minutes writing down your most attractive characteristics. What would your friends say about you? Remember that you’re trying to attract the opposite sex. What could you do with a date that would be fun? For example, most men aren’t interested in knitting. Try to focus on things you could do together. Don’t be afraid to get specific about your hobbies and interests. You never know who will be attracted to those little details.

Online dating doesn’t have to be difficult or scary. Just be smart and don’t forget to have fun. That’s what it’s all about. With a few clicks, you might be able to find a loving companion and partner.

Keith G. Tolman

Keith G. Tolman

Dr. Tolman is Professor of Medicine and Pharmacology at the University of Utah in Salt Lake City. He received his medical degree from the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada followed by a residency at Baylor Medical University in Houston and GI Fellowship at the University of Utah.
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