Sex and Sexual Chemistry: Hooking Up in Your 60s, 70s, and 80s

As you get older, it can be challenging to have an active sex life. But many people have figured out how to sustain sexual intimacy, even during big life transitions. In fact, many older adults say that they’re currently having the best sex ever. Here’s what it’s like to hook up in your 60s, 70s, and even 80s.

Longer lives mean more sex
Men and women are living longer than ever. Extended life spans and effective erectile dysfunction medications have allowed older adults to continue having sex well into their golden years. Many people over 60 still feel energetic and they enjoy more sexual satisfaction than they did in their youth.

Looking for the total package
Younger people tend to hook up based on sexual chemistry alone while hoping that it will lead to an emotional connection. Older adults are looking for the total package. They want physical and emotional compatibility. It can actually be easier to find a match after 60 because you fully understand your needs.

Realizing that sexuality is different for everyone
There’s no perfect sex life and the same standards don’t apply to everyone. The most important consideration is how you feel about your sexuality. Older adults can find happiness in a variety of circumstances. Contentment can come in many forms, depending on your needs, desires, and expectations. Some people over 60 have active, vibrant sex lives. Other couples have little interest in sex.

Swapping intercourse for outercourse
Outercourse is sex without penetration. As you age, erections and intercourse become less important. Many older adults enjoy kissing, touching, dirty talk, oral stimulation, and playing with sex toys. Outercourse is a fun, intimate activity that’s becoming more popular among people over 60. It’s all about taking your time and exploring your sexuality.

Overcoming performance anxiety issues
It’s relatively common for younger men to feel anxious about their sexual performance. But many older men realize that the key to sustaining an active sex life is being able to relax and feel comfortable with your sexuality. Your priorities definitely change as you age. It’s not about finding the hottest partner anymore. It’s about finding the right partner.

Putting in the effort
People over 60 know that “happily ever after” doesn’t just happen automatically. You have to make time for sex and relationships. Many older adults still lead busy lives filled with activities. It takes effort to keep the passion alive in a relationship. Sexually active older adults know that sex and intimacy always has to be an important item on the to-do list.

Sticking with healthy lifestyle choices
Lifestyle choices become more important as you age. Many older adults know that they need to follow a balanced diet and stay physically fit if they want to engage in sexual activity. Healthy sexual function for men is all about blood flow. Instead of using prescription medications, many men over 60 are jumping on the treadmill to get their blood pumping.