10 Secrets for an Incredible Sex Life After 50
Published 04/03/2015
Updated: 04/03/2015
Many women are still having great sex after 50. Sex during the second half of life doesn’t have to be bland and boring. You don’t have to accept mediocrity just because you’re getting older. In fact, some women over 50 are having the most incredible sex of their lives. Do you feel like you’ve lost your libido? These 10 secrets can help you regain an active sex life.
Be honest about what you want
Many women think that sex is about a man’s pleasure. However, sex should be about both you and your partner. It’s important to discuss your needs and ask for what you want. You’ll probably find that your partner is happy to fulfill your every desire.
Focus on yourself
Most men enjoy pleasing their partners. It can actually raise a man’s prolactin levels. So, don’t feel bad about focusing on your own pleasure. In fact, your partner may become more sexually aroused if he sees you experience a genuine orgasm.
Take your time
Many women feel rushed during sex. It’s important to slow down and take your time. If you feel relaxed, you and your partner will have more fun. When you have time, try to set aside an entire evening to explore your sexuality together.
Use sexual lubricants
Women who experience painful sex may benefit from using a sexual lubricant. Spit isn’t always enough. You can buy specialized sexual lubricants at your local drugstore. There are lots of different brands and formulas to try.
Use vaginal estrogen
Lubrication still isn’t enough for some women. If that’s the case, you may want to talk to your doctor about vaginal estrogen. It can help you regrow vaginal tissue within a few weeks. It’s generally safe for women who have had breast cancer.
Stimulate the clitoris and G-spot
Women can enhance their sexual pleasure by stimulating the clitoris and G-spot. You can massage your G-spot on your own, or you partner can help you experience pleasure. Experimentation can be a lot of fun for couples.
Check your vitamin D levels
Vitamin D is an important nutrient for women. It’s the sunshine vitamin. Vitamin D can boost your mood and give you more energy. When you feel good, it’s easier to be active and have fun during sex.
Get quality sleep
If you want to have more energy, it’s also important to get enough quality sleep. Most women need at least 8 hours. If you’re well rested, you’ll be ready for action when your partner reaches for you day or night.
Experiment with different activities
Many activities can boost a woman’s libido. Some women enjoy reading romance novels or erotic fiction. You can even take a pole dancing class then perform at home for your partner. Don’t be afraid to try new things to figure out what you like.
Take control of your sexuality
Remember that you’re in control of your sex life. You can take the initiative to make things happen. Tell your partner what you want and suggest new activities. It’s never too late to have the sex life you’ve always wanted.
Faith Coats
Dr. Faith Coats is a Naturopathic Medical Doctor from a rural area in Northern California. She was always interested in integrative medicine due to her “holistic” upbringing. While completing her prerequisites for medical school, she became unhealthy and obese. She then took control of her health and was able to lose 100 pounds but struggled to maintain her weight loss. She graduated cum laude with a Bachelor of Science in Cellular Molecular Biology, as well as, minors in chemistry and dance from Humboldt State University. Before applying to medical school she took a gap year and worked as a scribe in the ER. It was through that experience that she realized that there is a real need for preventative medicine. This is when she discovered Naturopathic Medicine which blends her love of evidence based medicine with traditional therapies. She then transitioned to Arizona where she attended Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine. Throughout the 4 years of medical school she struggledRead more
